Roop Rai
Whenever I reflect upon my life in India, I'm rather intrigued that I don't even have the vaguest memory of potholes and pollution that my parents and their friends so often talk about over dinner or casual get-togethers. Maybe it is because I subconsciously deleted my not so pleasant memories of the distant past or maybe it is because I never bothered to look at the downsides when I was in India. Whatever the case might be, the result is the same; India is still a land of love and mystery to me.
I was blessed to have a good life while I was there. My parents owned a decent business; therefore, we had a decent house with maids, car with a chauffer, etc. From a materialistic point of view, life was very comfortable but it's not the comfort of the materialistic assets that I miss .... I miss being able to go to my neighbor's house in mid-afternoon and grab a drink from their fridge, turn on their TV, watch without a care, and come back home when the drink is done ... I miss being able to get up on the roof and fly kites with the neighborhood kids ... I miss running down the streets trying to catch the kites that were shot down by "enemies" heh ... I miss going to the candy store at the corner of our house street and bargain with "uncle" for one candy promising him that I'd make sure my mom gets her groceries from his store ... I miss calling everyone including strangers "uncle" or "aunty" ... I miss that feeling of familiarity ... I miss that feeling of neighborhood as one unit ... I miss going over to an old couple's house in the neighborhood and listen to their childhood stories ... I miss ringing other people's doorbells and running without the fear of being punished ... I miss washing wheat from our farm at home and taking it to the mill to be grounded to flour ... I miss my mom doing laundry -on the roof- the traditional way while I sat there playing with soap bubbles ... I miss going to my mom's paternal village every summer ... I miss sitting under a big neem tree with friends on a hot summer day drinking lassi ... I miss mosquito bites; they assisted me in faking sickness quite a few times hehe ... I miss the power cuts that got me out of studying so many times haha ... I miss our crappy little TV that played nothing but one channel - DoorDarshan ... If it wasn't for that, I would've missed all the fun I had outside ... I miss my grandmother ........
Life wasn't all peachy as I might have implied "unintentionally". Of course, it had its ups and downs. If your entire neighborhood is like your family, that must mean that the entire neighborhood watches out for you. That requires you to live by the rules of the neighborhood or society in general. Whatever step you take may in some way affect the honor of the entire neighborhood, hence, everyone takes it upon themselves to take care of each other. Pretty simple, isnt it? Therefore, statements like "What will society say?" .. "What will people say?" .. frequented my household almost as much as they did everyone else's around. Having been raised with a westernized mindset, it sure was a shocker for me but I learnt to adapt to it ... the hard way (after getting yelled at a FEW times haha). Despite the societal restrictions, especially on girls (did i hear someone say double standards), I had a blast! I made some wonderful life lasting friends ... I had the most enriching experiences of my life ... I got the chance of knowing the poorest of the poor ... got the chance of knowing the richest of the rich ... India had such a profound effect on my life that the words like 'potholes' or 'pollution' hold no meaning for me. India filled me with life, love, friends, know-how to have a realistic approach to life and much more ..... time runs out ...... list goes on.
I am what I am because I was once in India. :)